Kimberly's Sex Blog

Thanks to the porn industry, urban legend, and general sexual misinformation; there are many questions about female ejaculation (also known as “squirting”). Is it pee? Is it normal? How can I make my girlfriend squirt? How can I stop myself from squirting? Is it a...

Do you (or someone you love) have a chronic illness that is affecting sexual health? Sexual health is a key component of overall well-being and life satisfaction. Nothing magnifies one’s sense of sexual health (or lack thereof) more than chronic illness. Sex remains...

Bad Boy Syndrome—Fact or Fiction? Ladies, have you ever felt like a sort of Dr. Jekyll/Mr. Hyde when it comes to sexual attraction? One day you find that aggressive, cocky guy at work to be completely offensive; then a week later you have a sex dream about him? You’re...

Okay, so here’s the truth about female orgasm. We live in an orgasm-focused society. Orgasm is perceived as the proverbial icing on the already tasty sexual cake. Despite our misguided notion that orgasm is the primary ‘reason’ to have sex, when it comes to women, it is no sure thing. Read on to learn about the 5 most common barriers.

Why do so many people lose their ‘mojo?’ Low libido is one of the most common complaints in my sex therapy practice. Desire is the initial phase of sexual response, followed by arousal, orgasm, and satisfaction. It is the most complex and fragile phase of sexual response (especially for women).

When working with clients, I divide desire into three separate and discrete components—biological, social, and psychological. At different stages of life, these components compete with each other, often creating conflict. People are often shocked when they discover just how fragile sexual desire really is!

Men have long been searching for the ‘holy grail’ of penile prowess. Charlatans, healers, and quacks have exploited male insecurities about sexual performance for over 2000 years. Lamar Odom’s recent abuse of so-called ‘herbal Viagra’ has the country talking about the lengths to which men will go to ensure potency.

When I started my career as a sex therapist in the early 1990’s, erectile dysfunction was an ‘older man’s’ concern. Now, I treat men in their 20’s who can’t get an erection. While the more mature crowd has new-found confidence thanks to Viagra, Levitra, and Cialis, it’s the younger guys who are struggling to perform. What’s going on? Why can’t young men ‘keep it up?’

Cheating is hardly a new phenomenon, but this ‘age-old’ problem is complicated by ‘new age’ technology. The Internet makes it disturbingly easy to cheat. But here’s another perspective – affairs can serve a surprising function – to stabilize relationships.